My Sweet Mia

61404790_314249689528304_1211163327019876352_n (1)My eyes have cried too many tears this year,

My heart aches from 2 good-byes so very near,

First, my husband – his absence so deep and wide,

Now, our sweet Mia. is not here to protect and guide.

 

So run on, dear Mia, along  Daddy’s side once more,

Give him my love, and be his friend as you were before,

You were our dog, a good and faithful one to the end,

I will miss you til it is my time to Heavenly ascend.61120251_315508379389937_1483120514468675584_n

Personal Lessons from Matt. 7:1-5

Matthew 7:1-5

Judging Others
1 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged.
2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?
4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?
5 You hypocrite first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

Why are we so quick to judge me – the way I appear or my feelings?
I can’t win with some people. If I cry for the loss of my husband, some think that I am falling apart beyond all repair. On the other hand, if I don’t at the mention of his name, they say that I am so strong, or they openly say that they do not understand why I am not in an ocean of tears. Here is what I have learned about grief through all of my grief experiences. I think of all of those that I have lost very often – especially my parents and grandparents. Let me tell you that there is not one minute of any day that my husband is not in my heart and mind! There were only a few days in our 33 years 3-month marriage that we did not see each other. Don’t tell me that I cannot mark married, that I must check WIDOW! I realize that I cannot list him as my emergency contact any longer, after all, there are no phones in heaven. Nobody gets to tell me how to feel or how to grieve; it is as personal what brings me joy.

Nobody knows how someone really feels in his or her mind and heart! A smile often hides profound sadness. Laughter keeps the tears from flowing down in streams. Grief never subsides. It changes, one gets used to its existence and learns to live with it, perhaps. When someone loses someone so vital to them that they lose a huge part of themselves, they don’t want pity. They want people to take a few moments to listen, to hear them and show empathy. There are many types of grief and loss. It does not always a traditional death. It can be a different type a loss of a home, friend, an intimate relationship, health, arms, legs etc. Let us remember to be kinder to one another.BA GRAD 7 2016

Wal-Mart Has No Heart

In a tiny community called Bonny Lake, WA., about 30 miles outside of Seattle, Brandi Hanvoid has been working at Wal-Mart as a greeter for the last 11 years. There is nothing so unusual about that; after all, Wal-Mart employs many people. However, Brandi was thrown from a car as a result of a car accident, causing her to have a traumatic brain injury. She loves her job as a greeter and it has been a major part of her life and a primary social outlet for her.

Speaking from my personal experience, it takes major planning to get somewhere on time and I live in a bigger city with nicer pavement than Bonny Lake. When one has to solely depend on the public paratransit system, as both Brandi and I do, wetter and colder whether makes it even more of a challenge to arrive on time. Yet, she cares so much about her job that she has traveled the four miles to Wal-Mart in her power chair when paratransit has been unable to take her to work. County roads are not in as good of shape as those in a city and much tougher to negotiate than city roads with any sort of mobility device. Wal-Mart gave her no accommodation. Suddenly, Wal-Mart fired her due to tardiness and absenteeism. This was not a new issue for her, so what changed? What caused Wal-Mart to let her go after 11 years?

This concerns me as I look for work and as others with disabilities try to work. We try very hard to accommodate the world around us. I wish this world would have a little more compassion!

https://www.kiro7.com/news/local/disabled-walmart-greeter-fired-after-public-transit-delays-led-to-too-many-late-days/909006859